Wishful Thinking...

[Idle Miscreant]

A's motivation seems generally that she wants to 'belong'. The problem is that once she IS accepted, she rapidly becomes judgemental.
I have no sympathy for an adult who sits alone and cries on their birthday with a special little cake for themselves (even if it was in her head). Maybe you're alone because you're a miserable, self-pitying suck-joy?

I detest self-pity.

I also object to people using other people as accessories, or as extensions of themselves. AFF has an entire fantasy built up around the "cool kids", and a list of things she seems to keep ticking off. Sleepovers, alcohol, peer-pressure, bitching, cliques, boyfriend, date nights, marriage, home, children...But at no point does it seem to matter WHO these people are, or what the meaning of the event is, just as long as it vaguely matches the image in her head. Sheldon LOOKS the part, but falls very short of her romantic ideals, and her EXPRESSED wish for a "normal boyfriend".
I just find her very empty.

She's an entirely artificial character, with multiple personalities to fit various plotlines, so I probably shouldn't be surprised by this...

My biggest irritation is the misconception that it's a "sweet, innocent" relationship "unlike anything on television" because it's going so slowly. It would only be "unique" if the slowness was consensual. It's not. Amy is constantly pushing, Sheldon is constantly resisting. TPTB say so all the time. That's not sweet and innocent, it's exhausting and wrong. And humiliating and shameful for both characters.

They COULD actually do something amusing with Amy. Making her a chaotic, weird, "sassy" ( ) single character having a variety of bizarre hook-ups, where she ran rings around them, and baffled the other characters etc, would have been potentially rather joyful to watch. But her whole character is steeped in frowns and suffering now. She's set permanently at mode:Harridan. And all because her boyfriend isn't playing normal.
But instead of breaking them up, and liberating BOTH characters, they still plod on with this gloomy, impotent, unnatural relationship, ruining Sheldon in the process.

Now excuse me I have to go the Grand Canyon to scream in frustration...