09-25-2015, 07:22 AM
Previous post, continued:
What really rubs me the wrong way about the H/B ship is that from the very start, most of their interactions seem to consist of him apologizing to her. She keeps on asking for some declaration of commitment and asking "where do you see this relationship going?", but she doesn't *tell* him about her feelings, expectations, and priorities.* A rather sheltered and socially awkward guy who has apparently never had an LTR before, is supposed to magically know what to do and how to behave, and if he doesn't then he's an insensitive clod. B's behavior is inconsistent and hard to to understand, but the show tells us that's H's fault.
*She doesn't *have* feelings and thoughts and an inner life, because she's a plot device, not a person. Season 3-4 Bernadette might not be a screaming psycho, but she's clear evidence that the writers think women are these fickle, illogical, constantly-changing creatures who can never be understood, because they're not *human.* They behave in random and nonsensical ways, they don't have any identifiable motivations, they just *exist* and their minds are an opaque mystery, or a blank. They just "want a commitment", even to a man they don't particularly like, because they're joyless fun-killers and they're out to "catch a man." They don't have sexual desires and they don't need to actually get to know someone, because a man is just a generic item to be plugged into their goal of a traditional lifestyle with a wedding and a white picket fence. And they're all the same.
What really rubs me the wrong way about the H/B ship is that from the very start, most of their interactions seem to consist of him apologizing to her. She keeps on asking for some declaration of commitment and asking "where do you see this relationship going?", but she doesn't *tell* him about her feelings, expectations, and priorities.* A rather sheltered and socially awkward guy who has apparently never had an LTR before, is supposed to magically know what to do and how to behave, and if he doesn't then he's an insensitive clod. B's behavior is inconsistent and hard to to understand, but the show tells us that's H's fault.
*She doesn't *have* feelings and thoughts and an inner life, because she's a plot device, not a person. Season 3-4 Bernadette might not be a screaming psycho, but she's clear evidence that the writers think women are these fickle, illogical, constantly-changing creatures who can never be understood, because they're not *human.* They behave in random and nonsensical ways, they don't have any identifiable motivations, they just *exist* and their minds are an opaque mystery, or a blank. They just "want a commitment", even to a man they don't particularly like, because they're joyless fun-killers and they're out to "catch a man." They don't have sexual desires and they don't need to actually get to know someone, because a man is just a generic item to be plugged into their goal of a traditional lifestyle with a wedding and a white picket fence. And they're all the same.