10-22-2014, 02:31 PM
Checklist of an abusive relationship
Except for actual, physical hitting, I'd say A, and B, and L have done *all* of these things to some degree, wouldn't you?
I mean, not to be overly dramatic, but it's true.
http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse
Some pertinent quotes:
"a partner may try to pressure you into having sex"
"They may call you names"
"They might get angry when you want to spend time with your friends"
"Do you agree with this statement: My partner never tries to control what I wear, where I go or what I do?"
"Does your partner respect your feelings, your opinions and your friends?"
"When someone loves you, you feel safe, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel scared, intimidated or controlled."
"Does your partner let you feel comfortable being yourself?"
TBBT ships fail on all counts. The occasional "sweet" moments are not enough to make up for that.
Personally, I find the "nice" moments in these ships to be very phony and saccharine...
ETA: Ohhhhhhh, I found the best part! "My partner is abusive, but at least I’ve got a partner, right?"
That is TPTB's motto. It is their modus operandi, for real.
Except for actual, physical hitting, I'd say A, and B, and L have done *all* of these things to some degree, wouldn't you?
I mean, not to be overly dramatic, but it's true.
http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse
Some pertinent quotes:
"a partner may try to pressure you into having sex"
"They may call you names"
"They might get angry when you want to spend time with your friends"
"Do you agree with this statement: My partner never tries to control what I wear, where I go or what I do?"
"Does your partner respect your feelings, your opinions and your friends?"
"When someone loves you, you feel safe, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel scared, intimidated or controlled."
"Does your partner let you feel comfortable being yourself?"
TBBT ships fail on all counts. The occasional "sweet" moments are not enough to make up for that.
Personally, I find the "nice" moments in these ships to be very phony and saccharine...
ETA: Ohhhhhhh, I found the best part! "My partner is abusive, but at least I’ve got a partner, right?"
That is TPTB's motto. It is their modus operandi, for real.