09-01-2014, 08:13 AM
Found this on Livejournal, don't know what fandom it's in reference to, but it seems...descriptive. (I did not write this, I found it.)
"As a general rule, if you find everything about someone's personality annoying, their dating style drives you up a wall, they have a laundry list of bad habits that you find intolerable, and you have nothing in common--the solution is to not date them. It's not for them to rewrite their entire personality while you communicate in snidely cryptic comments and icy silences and complain about it constantly to all your mutual friends (who are, of course, doing everything short of locking the two of you in a closet together, because your relationship issues are the center of everyone else's lives).
I mean, okay, this does happen depressingly often in real life, but it isn't romantic, and it isn't going to lead to a healthy relationship at the end. Which, if that's what you want to write, there's nothing wrong with that, but be honest about what you're doing. I know there's the intersection of fluff and h/c where helping someone get over their Issues is a part of the relationship building, but it's hard to root for a romance between two people who to all appearances hate each other's guts.
I think this happens a lot when writers have an OTP where they only actually like one half of the pairing. It's understandable, but it's still annoying as hell."
"As a general rule, if you find everything about someone's personality annoying, their dating style drives you up a wall, they have a laundry list of bad habits that you find intolerable, and you have nothing in common--the solution is to not date them. It's not for them to rewrite their entire personality while you communicate in snidely cryptic comments and icy silences and complain about it constantly to all your mutual friends (who are, of course, doing everything short of locking the two of you in a closet together, because your relationship issues are the center of everyone else's lives).
I mean, okay, this does happen depressingly often in real life, but it isn't romantic, and it isn't going to lead to a healthy relationship at the end. Which, if that's what you want to write, there's nothing wrong with that, but be honest about what you're doing. I know there's the intersection of fluff and h/c where helping someone get over their Issues is a part of the relationship building, but it's hard to root for a romance between two people who to all appearances hate each other's guts.
I think this happens a lot when writers have an OTP where they only actually like one half of the pairing. It's understandable, but it's still annoying as hell."